“...my work serves the woman who also stands in integrity and follows her truth even if it means going against one’s upbringing and/or social conditioning; the woman who speaks up for marginalized communities and is willing to trade in her privileges in order to help others rise; the woman who holds others accountable for their actions and doesn't quiet herself when she has something to say; the woman who is anchored in her OWN values and follows her heart when she needs to pivot or make a change; the woman who writes the script of her life and doesn’t need anyone else’s permission to follow it; and the woman who lives her definition of freedom and doesn’t apologize for any of it.”
(The above is an excerpt from my piece for the November 2018 Freedom Seekers’ Collective Series. The below is a repost of the latest digital GAZETTE — my online newsletter that goes out via email. Sign up for it here.)
On Cyber Monday (and Tuesday), amongst the frenzy of digital discounts,
I chose not to send out sale reminders.
Nor final sale reminders.
Nor final, final sale reminders.
And definitely not the final, final this is THE LAST TIME YOU WILL EVER SEE THIS BARGAIN YOU ARE NEVER GOING TO GET ANOTHER DEAL ON LIFE EVER AGAIN THE WORLD IS COMING TO AN END OMG!!!!!!!!!!!! reminders.
...posted a piece about being unapologetic.
Including: not following the online marketing rules of 2018. [Which far too often capitalize off of your fears of scarcity and not being enough.]
(But also, who has the energy to be sorry for something you don't need to be sorry about when the stress of the winter holidays is ENOUGH? I dare you to stop apologizing for at least one thing this season.)
So, I wrote about all the things I will no longer apologize for -- which originally started in the spring of 2017 as a clapback at my abusive relationship...and eventually turned into my MO.
Being unapologetic is a part of my definition of what it means to live a life of freedom. And it was for the Freedom Seekers’ Collective Series, produced by Sophy Dale, that I wrote this piece on being unapologetic about spending my energy on only what feels aligned within.
In this series, thirty, very brave, women creative entrepreneurs write about what freedom feels and looks like in both their personal lives and in their businesses. You might be surprised at what they have to say. Their visions of freedom are definitely not what most of the internet is trying to sell to you.
It's honest and full of what is rarely discussed publicly on the creative + entrepreneurial path, because we are taught to talk about the rewards as a way to inspire/go big/give hope —rarely do we talk about the roads we traveled to get there — all the scary parts, all the times we questioned whether we were making the right turns and going in the right direction.
But like the search for happiness, I’m not so sure freedom is a thing we can find outside of ourselves. It's not something we can buy or buy into. It’s something we build. And maybe, being unapologetic about ourselves is the cornerstone of that building.
If you have been sitting on the edge of a decision that you know in your heart leads to your vision of freedom for your own life — read all thirty pieces from this series. There will be an answer you are looking for. And, I promise you, you won't be sold anything other than the idea to define freedom for yourself.
And to not be damn sorry about any of it.